There is a lot to be learned from studying our mistakes, provided that we can successfully identify them. But sometimes, it is also very helpful to know how things look like when they work well. This holds true of course in the context of Seduction. And the truth is, a textbook Seduction case almost looks too easy! Even if it isn’t. Today I want to illustrate how it looks like when seduction works well with a personal story.
June 2016, Cebu, Philippines. I had met miss Z online when I had last traveled to Cebu, but we didn’t had a chance to meet then. Miss Z was a 26 years old very feminine young woman, and from what I could tell from the pictures, a very beautiful one. So we kept in episodic touch over the next few months by text message, until about three months later, when I finally got a chance to travel there again.
The tease
The Thursday evening, I informed her that I was about to fly to the Philippines and stay in Cebu for about ten days. I hinted about meeting her on Saturday, but without making any firm agreement to meet – yet. When I reached Cebu, I decided to keep on teasing her a little bit to increase the buying temperature. So on the Saturday, instead of asking her out, I sent her pictures of myself around the city, in company of cute waitresses…. but not asking her out yet, and keeping silence. Let her cook a little bit longer :-)!
I finally broke silence on Monday with this text:
“so… are you available and willing to meet me?”
She complained that she had been expecting my message and was too shy to ask, then said she was available, and finally we agreed to meet the same day at about 8:30pm for a quick dinner. Teasing her about meeting worked like a charm.
The date
We made an appointment at nearby coffee shop. She arrived at 9pm, and surprise, she was not just beautiful, she was actually a sexy and stunning beauty, even more than her pictures implied.
She was dressed in a mini-skirt and heels, with long and sexy black hair going down to her waist. Her face features were very fair and delicate. The overall style was very sexy, but with good taste and elegance, highlighting beautiful legs, wide hips and thin waist. The hourglass body shape. Clearly the most beautiful girl I ever dated so far.
But I knew better than giving myself away.
I was The Doctor, well into my seducer persona. And as such, I didn’t flinch an inch in front of her beauty. On the opposite, I acted not impressed, very confident, and in full control of myself. Girls at her level of beauty are used to see men losing their minds and nerves in the face of their beauty, all the time! They know instantly that they can have these men at their command if they want to. But they are more attracted to the men they can’t control so easily!
So… She showed up in the coffee shop, and I calmly asked her to sit next to me. I could tell she was a little shy and nervous, and I was in complete control of myself. It was the first time we met in real life, so we re-introduced ourselves. I put a sexy slow smile on my face, and started to dive deep into her story, and get her to talk. And soon she was feeling completely comfortable. We eventually finished our drinks and decided for a nearby restaurant.
Moving to the restaurant
Up to now, I had been establishing physical contact with some low-key “incidental” touch once in a while: such as briefly touching her forearm on a high point of the conversation. As soon as we left the coffee shop, I confidently extended my hand towards hers, and she immediately put her hand in mine. I was now leading her towards the restaurant, and could feel she was completely comfortable with my touch and lead. She just liked it!
In the restaurant, I sat her besides me again. As we were eating, she now had her hand gently over my leg, and while discussing her life, I was gently playing with her hair. Her superb legs in miniskirt where right next to my hand but I left that for later. When the diner was done, we had a selfie session: side by side, in my arms as I take the shot. There was no sign of discomfort at the physical contact.
A word about the frame
Now that I introduced the concept of frame, let me say a word about it. The underlying frame sub-communicated by my behavior and body language was:
I am not impressed by your beauty, and I am very able to handle your femininity. I am used to dealing with your standard of beauty, therefore I must have had many more beauties like yours, and I must live in sexual abundance.
This is another variant of the alpha male frame! It is an extremely sexy frame to have. That’s how you convey yourself as a Sexy Guy. My ability to consistently keep this frame throughout our face to face interaction, was very much the reason to my success.
Time to step up
It was now a little past 10pm, this date had run for a little more than an hour so far, and it was time to step up and be bold. Even if you think your date is going well, you never have any guarantee at a second shot, especially with a woman of this caliber. So it was now or never.
We were just outside the restaurant. During the dinner she had mentioned that she enjoys a little wine occasionally. So I grabbed her by the hand, and started walking towards my hotel. “We’re going to my hotel and get a glass of wine” I told her, then continuing a normal conversation. And yes, I didn’t ask her, I told her: that’s a subtle nuance. Besides, she agreed, and we walked and talked normally all the way to the hotel. Which was conveniently at a 10 minutes walk.
We went straight to my room, I ordered two glasses of wine and put some music in the background.
In the hotel room
I was sitting next to her in the sofa. We had a sip of wine, then I started. I approached my lips from hers, but not all the way, then smiled, and kissed her instead on the cheek. Then I went for her neck, then finally made out with her. Her breathing pattern changed, going louder and slower, from which I could tell she was already horny… but she just plainly acknowledged it by telling me “I’m horny”. And as she said that, her hand was on my zipper. About one hour and thirty minutes after meeting her for the first time ever, we were in a bed, making passionate love for hours and hours. She came back the next evening and we reiterated the experience for another sleepless night.
After I left the country, we kept in touch. The following month of September I was back in the city, and tried to arrange another meeting – which didn’t work. But then I met with miss J… It is a busy life.
A few takeaways
When seduction works well, it looks like flowing smoothly, almost too easy… But it is not. To pull it right requires nerves of steel. You need to be in utter control of yourself, and know exactly what you are doing. Let me conclude with the main takeaways:
- I teased her with the meeting. It helps to be unpredictable, as opposed to linear. It actually fuels tension and spikes interest.
- I was in complete control of my emotions and body language. She was a stunning beauty, but I didn’t let it show in my behavior.
- By letting her tell me her story, I worked on building comfort. She was initially nervous, but soon completely comfortable.
- I also established physical comfort, by getting her used to my touch from very early on, then getting increasingly physical afterwards, taking her hand, playing with her hair, taking her in my arms.
- The way she felt comfortable with my physical contact was an important cue that she was into me.
- The fact that she reciprocated my touch (her hand on my leg in the restaurant) was also a positive sign.
- No wining and dining. It was a simple coffee shop and a popular restaurant. Nothing fancy!
- I took her on a date within a walking distance of my hotel on purpose, so as to facilitate operations if things went well!
- I may never have a second shot! So I went for it, especially because she seemed into me. I was bold and took her home. Boldness pays better than timidity.
- If I had asked her “do you want to come with me?” she would have had to decide about getting promiscuous. Because of her “I am a good girl” self-image, she may have felt bad about it and refused
- Instead I told her “we’re going to my hotel” and relieved her of the decision and moral dilemma. Instead of calling for trouble, act like if the sale already happened!
This is exactly what girls call “being swiped on my feet”. It has an almost magical character, and they just love it. If you are able to pull it off, you will just wow them! Be sure that they will remember you, dear Reader!
Finally, it is worth keeping in mind that something like this is not uncommon for the most beautiful girls. So if you think it’s about a slow and prudent move, a date after date conquer, know what standards you are measured against, and think twice!
Yours,
